Best Quotes: Crazy Busy

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Since we’re all crazy busy, here are the best quotes from Crazy Busy by Kevin DeYoung! Hope they’re helpful.

“When we are crazy busy, we put our souls at risk.” (Pg. 26)

“One study found that commuters experience greater levels of stress than fighter pilots and riot police.” (Pg. 26)

“Margin is the space between our load and our limits.” – Richard Swenson (Pg. 27)

“Busyness is like sin: kill it or it will kill you.” (Pg. 28)

“Busyness serves as a kind of existential reassurance, a hedge against emptiness.” – Tim Kreider (Pg. 31)

“People-pleasing is actually a form of pride and narcissism.” (Pg. 35)

“If we get our lives under control, we won’t seem nearly so impressive and people won’t ooh and aah over our burdens.” (Pg. 37)

“Even if you could be known the world over, what does it matter if you have no time to be known by God?” (Pg. 37)

“Am I trying to do good or look good?” (Pg. 41)

“Good hospital-ity is making your home a hospital.” (Pg. 41)

“Surely there are many Christians who are terribly busy because they sincerely want to be obedient to God.” (Pg. 45)

“You may be part of the bridal party, but you are not the groom. You are not the Messiah, so don’t try to be.” – Gordon Hugenberger (Pg. 48)

“Jesus knew the difference between urgent and important. He understood that all the good things he could do were not necessarily the things he ought to do.” (Pg. 55)

“The person who never sets priorities is the person who does not believe in his own finitude.” (Pg. 57)

“Time is totally perishable and cannot be stored.” (Pg. 58)

“If computers can’t do two things at once, we certainly can’t.” (Pg. 60)

“Caring for people is often wildly inefficient.” (Pg. 62)

“One of the best things we can do for our kids is to find a way to stop being so frantic and frazzled.” (Pg. 70)

“Most moms and dads think they are either the best or the worst parents in the world, and both are wrong.” – Kevin DeYoung’s Admin Assistant (Pg. 73)

“It does no good to pine for a world that isn’t coming back and probably wasn’t as rosy as we remember it.” (Pg. 79)

“The happiest and most fulfilled times of my life have all involved a prolonged separation from the Internet.” – College Senior (Pg. 81)

“We want to complexify our lives. We don’t have to, we want to. We want to be harried and hassled and busy. Unconsciously, we want the very things we complain about.” (Pg. 83)

“If ‘digital busyness is the enemy of depth,’ then we are bound to be stuck in the shallows so long as we’re never alone. Our digital age gives new relevance to Pascal’s famous line: ‘I have often said that the sole cause of man’s unhappiness is that he does not know how to stay quietly in his room.” (Pg. 84-85)

“Because of the incarnation, we understand there is no substitute for dwelling with physical people in a physical space. So we do not accept virtual encounters as adequate substitutes for flesh and blood relationships.” (Pg. 87)

“We cannot be truly here and there at the same time. The biggest deception of our digital age may be the lie that says we can be omni-competent, omni-informed, and omni-present.” (Pg. 88)

“[God] offers us Sabbath as a test; it’s an opportunity to trust God’s work more than our own.” (Pg. 91)

“God made us to need sleep, and when we think we can survive without it, we not only spurn his gift (Ps. 127:2); we show our mistaken self-reliance.” (Pg. 95)

“You cannot cheat sleep indefinitely. And the longer you try to borrow against sleep, the more your body (or God) will force you to pay for those hours – plus interest.” (Pg. 96)

“Sometimes the godliest thing you can do in the universe is get a good night’s sleep…” – D. A. Carson (Pg. 97)

“The antidote to busyness of soul is not sloth and indifference. The antidote is rest, rhythm, death to pride, acceptance of our own finitude, and trust in the providence of God.” (Pg. 102)

“Can we honestly say and show that sitting at the feet of Jesus is the one thing that is necessary?” (Pg. 113)

“We have to believe that the most significant opportunity before us every day is the opportunity to sit at the feet of Jesus.” (Pg. 115)

“It’s not wrong to be tired. It’s not wrong to feel overwhelmed. It’s not wrong to go through season of complete chaos. What is wrong – and heartbreakingly foolish and wonderfully avoidable – is to live a life with more craziness than we want because we have less Jesus than we need.” (Pg. 118)

Not God Enough: Best Quotes

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Here are the best quotes from J.D. Greear‘s theology book Not God Enough published this year.

“A god small enough to be understood will never be big enough to be worshipped.” – Evelyn Underhill (pg. 24)

“Most Christians haven’t rejected God; they have just reduced him.” (pg. 38)

“Perhaps we should not assume that just because we cannot think of a good reason that something bad has happened means that there cannot be a good reason.” (pg. 58)

“We imagine a God of omnipotent power but with a brain no bigger than ours…” (pg. 59)

“If we make our faith contingent on being able to figure everything out, we’ll never believe.” (pg. 62)

“Even where we can’t trace [God’s] hand, we can trust his heart.” (pg. 67)

“In at least 322 places, Jewish prophets, who wrote hundreds of years before Jesus’s birth, predicted details about the coming Messiah’s life.” (pg. 89)

“If I can trust [Jesus’s] claim to be the Messiah, I can trust the Bible he left behind.” (pg. 92)

“Faith is accepting what you cannot understand on the basis of what you can understand.” (pg. 94)

“God is not ‘ours.’ He is his own. He’s not a salad bar where we take the items we have an appetite for and leave the others. He’s not the Burger King God, where you ‘have him your way,’ or a Build-A-Bear God, where you assemble the deity you like best.” (pg. 99)

“If God doesn’t make us mad, we’re not worshipping him, but ourselves.” – Karl Barth (pg. 102)

“Stress, worry, anxiety, strife, jealousy, and dissatisfaction are smoke rising from the altars we’ve erected to our false gods.” – Saint Augustine (pg. 103)

“You can take one of two postures toward God. You can shrink him down and carry him, or humble yourself and let him carry you.” (pg. 104)

“If Jesus is your ‘co-pilot,’ somebody is in the wrong seat.” (pg. 119)

“The opposite of love, it’s said, is not hate, but apathy.” (pg. 126)

“Experiencing pain or humiliation because of your sin may feel like God’s wrath, but it is actually the tender outworking of his compassion.” (pg. 128)

“In Christ, God did not overlook the guilt of the guilty; he poured it on a substitute – himself.” (pg. 130)

“The pursuing love of God is the greatest wonder in the spiritual universe.” – Donald Grey Barnhouse (pg. 142)

“Jesus didn’t die so we could play church. He didn’t die to be our source of serenity in a busy life. He didn’t endure the cross so we could huddle together in small groups and bemoan the deterioration of our culture. He died to turn us into white-hot worshipers and world-transformers. Jesus is not a safety net, a relief valve, an assistant, or a divine butler. He’s a God whose glory and love deserve our utmost allegiance.” (pgs. 151-152)

“Is what you are living for worth [Jesus] dying for?” (pg. 152)

“If you love something, you don’t need to be commanded to love it…” (pg. 156)

“Victorious, passionate Christian living is the result of finally seeing God for who he is – standing humbled before the heights of his holiness and awestruck at the depths of his love. Then, and only then, will we soar spiritually.” (pg. 160)

“If you want to overcome sin, don’t focus on shrinking your temptations; focus on enlarging your view of God.” (pg. 161)

“The reason it’s wrong for anyone to make themselves the center of their lives is simple: they’re not God.” (pg. 172)

“Death, the mighty enemy, has been reduced to a temporary, inconvenient nuisance.” (pg. 183)

“At any given moment God is doing about 10,000 different things in your life and you are probably aware of only 3 of them.” – John Piper (pg. 189)

“Every Christian here is either a missionary or an imposter.” – C.H. Spurgeon (pg. 192)

“We are not guaranteed safety. We are guaranteed Jesus. And he is enough.” (pg. 200)

“Feeling inadequate is a prerequisite to being used by God.” (pg. 209)

“A friend of mine explains it this way: When you say, ‘But I am such a terrible mom,’ or ‘I am a failure,’ God replies, ‘I am neither of those things! And if I am in you, you are not either.'” (pg. 212)

“The primary work we do for God, Jesus told us, is believing (Jn. 6:29). Believing that he is who he said he is and that he will do all he said he will do. Trust in Jesus is the most powerful force on the planet.” (pg. 226)

Modeling Leadership

 

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If there’s anything I’ve learned as the parent of a toddler, it’s that my son Landon imitates almost everything I do. If I’m on my laptop, he’ll grab his and start typing next to me. When we dance, he’ll mimic my (usually awful) dance moves. If I’m playing basketball, he jumps in. When my wife Joy starts to exercise, he’ll grab his maracas and start lifting them like weights.

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But hopefully Landon will catch more than just our genetics, use of technology, and exercise routines. We have 7 family goals that we tell Landon every night before bed: 1) Live for God 2) Love others 3) Learn always 4) Laugh often 5) Lead with vision 6) Listen to the wise & 7) Labor for what matters. Truth is: it doesn’t matter how many times we say these goals to Landon. He won’t catch what we say if he doesn’t see and experience these goals lived out in our lives.

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Leadership is a lot like parenting, and leadership is more caught than taught. “Like begets like.” This is why the Apostle Paul said, “Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.” [1] He pointed to his personal life – not just his words. Michael Hyatt says, “If you are a leader, like it or not, you will replicate yourself. Your followers will adopt your behaviors and habits.” [2] This means that good leaders are always conscience that they are influencing people whether they know it or not – both in what they do and what they don’t do. This includes beliefs, behaviors and values – in communication, habits, time management, decision-making, finances, and faith.

Imitation follows modeling, meaning that you reproduce who you are and what you do as a leader. James Kouzes & Barry Posner say, “Leaders take every opportunity to show others by their own example that they’re deeply committed to the values they espouse. No one will believe you’re serious until they see you doing what you’re asking of others. Leading by example is how leaders make visions and values tangible. It’s how they provide the evidence that they’re personally committed.” [3]

Good leaders are also good followers. Since you replicate who you are and what you do, it’s essential to follow Jesus effectively in your personal life. As others see you follow Jesus, they will follow your example of followership. Here’s what Kouzes & Posner identify as keys for effective leadership modeling:

  1. Personify shared values.
  2. Spend your time and attention wisely.
  3. Watch your language – how you say what you say is just as important as what you say.
  4. Ask purposeful questions – the best ones start with why?, what?, and how?
  5. Seek feedback because leaders are learners; don’t shy away from others’ help.
  6. Confront critical incidents by balancing love and truth.
  7. Tell stories & celebrate wins as often as you can.
  8. Reinforce and reward the behavior you want repeated. [4]

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES:

The Core by Josh Crocker & Tim Morris (FREE PDF HERE)

The Leadership Challenge by James Kouzes & Barry Posner

Spiritual Leadership by Henry Blackaby & Richard Blackaby

FOOTNOTES:

[1] 1st Cor. 11:1.

[2] https://michaelhyatt.com/people-see-people-do/.

[3] The Leadership Challenge (4th edition), pg. 75.

[4] Ibid, 73-94.

Why Do I Love God?

Being a dad is a huge learning curve, especially in our relationship with God. I’m a very proud father of an amazing 2-year old son named Landon. He’s survived two open-heart surgeries with a third on the way. Landon’s a fighter, and his evolving personality proves that emphatically. The other day my wife Joy walked into the house from a grocery store run with Landon right behind her. As soon as Landon saw me – he smiled, let out a toddler-esque shriek of excitement, and ran over to me as fast as he could.

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Normally this would be the part of the story where I tell you that’s the greatest feeling in the world (which it was), until Joy gave the backstory. She said, “So as we were pulling in the driveway, I asked Landon: ‘Do you want to see Daddy?’

He shook his head ‘NO.’ I asked again, and he kept shaking his head ‘NO.’ Then we walked through the door, saw you eating a salad, and that’s why he smiled, shrieked with excitement, and ran over to you.”

Great… just what every dad wants to hear!

See, Landon loves croutons and cheese. I can’t enjoy a salad anymore these days when he’s around. He’s literally taken the croutons and cheese off of other people’s plates at banquets (true story).

The truth is though – I love to give Landon what he likes. I love to see Landon enjoy his life, and I love to give him things that make him happy. But here’s the tough question that I’ve wrestled with…

If I don’t give Landon things that he wants, will he still love me?

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Probably every parent has asked this before, but some of us might not have considered the spiritual implications at play here. See most of us (if we’re honest with ourselves) love God because of what he gives us. The same is true in many of our marriages.

We might love what our husband or wife gives us more than we love them just for being them. The same can be true with our kids; do we love them for who they are rather than what they give us? While this is definitely convicting on a human level, it’s symptomatic of our spiritual relationship with God.

Satan made this accusation about Job: “Satan replied to the Lord, ‘Yes, but Job has good reason to fear God. You have always put a wall of protection around him and his home and his property. You have made him prosper in everything he does. Look how rich he is! But reach out and take away everything he has, and he will surely curse you to your face!’” (Job 1:9-11).

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Throughout the book of Job we see him imperfectly wrestle with the same questions, fears, doubts, and struggles with God that we all have. Thankfully, he came out on the other end as a faithful example of strong faith – refusing to abandon God despite intense suffering. But the Bible is clear that God loves to bless us!

James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift comes from above, from the Father of lights…” Jesus said in Matthew 7:11, “If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!”

While the prosperity gospel is false and ridiculous, it is still true that God loves to bless us. At the same time – God also allows us to experience very real & terrible trials in this life. Just look at Joseph, Moses, Ruth, David, the disciples, & Paul. They suffered immensely, but God loved them intensely! The key is that these biblical characters loved God for who he was, not what he gave them.

Ask yourself this question: What would it take for you to turn your back on God?

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As a dad, I’m going to do everything I can to parent Landon God’s way. That means a lot of the time I will go out of my way to be generous with my time, sacrifice for him financially, be his free taxi-cab service for many years, feed him, protect him, and support him any way that I can. But there will also be times where I need to let him fail forward, appropriately discipline, and withhold things from him.

Awhile back Landon got super mad at me because I wouldn’t let him climb the stairs by himself. He threw a fit because he wanted to climb the stairs, but as his father I knew he wasn’t ready for that. There was a lot of danger in that climb, so I kept him from what he wanted for his own good.

When God does that with us, do we stop loving him?

Over the course of time, I pray that Landon and I will form a healthy, mature friendship where we love each other for who we are – not what we give each other. I’m hoping that my relationship with God grows that way too. I’ve been following Jesus for more than two decades, but I still recognize corners of my heart where I’m not loving God for who he is.

Thankfully, the gospel reminds us that the security of our relationship is in God’s initial, unconditional love for us. “This is real love – not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins” (1st John 4:10).

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